Toxic encounters can involve criticism, manipulation, gossip, provocation, control, disrespect, emotional dumping, boundary violations, or repeated destabilizing behavior — at work, in families, in friendships, in relationships, in communities, and online.

This tool won’t tell you what’s wrong with the other person, and it won’t tell you what to do about them. It helps you steady yourself and decide how you want to respond — which is the part you control.